‘When you lose a loved one, you suffer.  But if you know how to look deeply, you have a chance to realize that his or her nature is truly the nature of no-birth, no death…Pay attention to the world around you, to the leaves and the flowers, to the birds and the rain.  If you can stop and look deeply, you will recognize your beloved manifesting again and again in many forms.  You will release your fear and pain and again embrace the joy of life.’

Thich Nhat Hanh – Fear