My dear mum, who surrounded me and my family with unconditional love all her life, has gone. She was the kindest person I’ve ever met and like Laura had a beautiful open smile. Her cousin Isabella recalled: ‘She brought the sunshine into the room with her.’ I was blessed to be with her at the…
In Praise of Desire
Instead of feeling anxious about your desires, relax in the certainty that your deepest desires are leading you to the very best expression of yourself. Your inner voice is speaking to you and that my friends is where true happiness lies – Oprah Winfrey
Resistance
I’ve taught Tai Chi for over 15 years, but as with everything I am still learning, I love the fluid movements – the spiraling, flowing dance that soothes my soul and energizes me. Afterwards I feel calm, alert and balanced inside and out. It looks so soft and gentle. But Tai Chi is the…
Snowman
‘Send me something lovely,’ I asked Laura as I walked into Carl Schurz park, just after one of the March Nor’Easter’s. There was a few inches of snow on the ground and I felt in need of cheering up. If you follow this blog you’ll know that since my wife Laura passed I sometimes say…
Thinking of You
What if thinking about someone lovingly is enough to reach out and touch their heart? No matter the distance between you, what if your thoughts are like tendrils that can strengthen the bond between you? And what if the reverse is also true? What if by thinking negative, angry or judgemental thoughts, we reach out and…
Soul Whispers
‘Our eternal identity never leaves us alone in the bodies we choose…In reflection, meditation, or prayer, the memories of who we really are do filter down to us in selective thought each day. In small, intuitive ways – through the cloud of amnesia – we are given clues for the justification of our being.’ –…
Worry Wort
A few years ago I gave up worrying. I realized I never worried about the right things. It was those things that I hadn’t foreseen that blind-sided me. Things like getting MS, mum having a stroke and Laura dying. Also worrying takes up a huge amount of mental space and a lot of energy. And as…
Flying
I love the winter Olympics. It is all about flying. Flying across the ice, flying through the air, and sometimes, like Icarus, plummeting from the sky and doing a face plant in the snow. Flying comes naturally to our souls. But our bodies need a little assist. The most bonkers news from Pyeongchang, South Korea,…
Touching Joy
What if the highest form of communication isn’t words, but touch? No, silly. Not that, or rather, not JUST that kind of touch. I’ve often said to people I love – ‘I read you through your skin’. Because I feel a deep non verbal connection just by holding hands or snuggling. Laura spoke wordlessly to…
Strange Magic
When I came back from England last week, I walked into my apartment and noticed immediately Laura’s photograph had moved. It was folded up flat and lying neatly on the bookcase. It looked so odd. So deliberate. My first thought was someone has broken in. But that’s nuts. Who would break in to rearrange the decor?…
A Word from Emerson
Tis curious that we only believe as deep as we live – Emerson, ‘Beauty’
Puppy Love
Took my sister’s puppy Rue for a gallop across the fields in the snow today. This is Rue’s first Christmas. And she loves snow. It was twilight and she is pitch black, so I attached a big red bike-light to her collar so as not to lose her. She hit every stream, chased the geese,…
The Dating Coach
It’s nearly four years since Laura passed and recently I’ve dipped a toe into dating again. I am having a lot of fun. And Laura seems to be having a lot of fun too. She made a rather loud and unexpected appearance in the middle of a recent dinner at ABCV – Jean Georges Vongerichten’s…
Gratitude
‘Gratitude. For a million reasons. This moment. This place. This life. Thank you, thank you, thank you.’ my friend Lyn Godley wrote on Facebook this morning. It made my heart soar. I would just add one big dollop of gratitude for this blog family, my family and friends, and those souls who’ve passed but still sing…
Liquid Love
‘You are liquid love in human form.’ – Abraham Hicks Love and light were recurring themes at the recent Art of Dying conference in New York, where more than 30 professionals, who tend to the dying, deceased and the grieving, spoke about their experiences. Olivia Barham, a death midwife, told how when her mother died, she…
Soul Love Forever 