Everyday Miracles

How long do you think a bunch of Calla lilies should last? A couple of days? A week? Two weeks?  The flowers pictured above are six weeks old and far from looking decrepit, their trumpets are still flush with color and looking strong.  I’ve even been away on holiday for a week and barely changed…

Patti Smith – Talking to the Departed

‘My best friend died of leukemia when I was about seven or eight… Then, going through the death of Robert Mapplethorpe was so devastating and difficult. Our friendship was so deep, and his consciousness was so intertwined with mine .. that I knew he would still be with me when he died… I’ve learned from Robert…

The Magic Month

December is the month of magical lights and miracles.  I just learned recently that the Hanukkah candles symbolize the miracle of a lamp that ought to have burned for one day, glowing instead for eight days. The Christian nativity story is filled with one miraculous sign after another; dreams, premonitions and – my favorite –…

Janette Young, 19 November 1931 to 22 May 2018

My dear mum, who surrounded me and my family with unconditional love all her life, has gone. She was the kindest person I’ve ever met and like Laura had a beautiful open smile. Her cousin Isabella recalled: ‘She brought the sunshine into the room with her.’ I was blessed to be with her at the…

Snowman

‘Send me something lovely,’ I asked Laura as I walked into Carl Schurz park, just after one of the March Nor’Easter’s. There was a few inches of snow on the ground and I felt in need of cheering up. If you follow this blog you’ll know that since my wife Laura passed I sometimes say…

The Dating Coach

It’s nearly four years since Laura passed and recently I’ve dipped a toe into dating again. I am having a lot of fun. And Laura seems to be having a lot of fun too. She made a rather loud and unexpected appearance in the middle of a recent dinner at ABCV – Jean Georges Vongerichten’s…

Liquid Love

‘You  are liquid love in human form.’ – Abraham Hicks Love and light were recurring themes at the recent Art of Dying conference in New York, where more than 30 professionals, who tend to the dying, deceased and the grieving, spoke about their experiences. Olivia Barham, a death midwife, told how when her mother died, she…

The Art of Dying Conference Discount

The Open Center just gave me – and my readers (i.e. YOU!) – a terrific discount for the Art of Dying Conference in New York (Oct 13-16). Instead of paying $545 for the 3-day conference, the cost is just $200. You can attend in person or stream it online. If you are interested in what happens…