Momentum

Kindness abounds.  Friends invite me on holiday to Palm Beach.  The neighbors keep a watchful eye on my 92-year-old dad. And after nearly nine months of flat lining emotionally or worse feeling desolate and sometimes lost since mum’s passing, it’s as if the power is beginning to flicker back on inside. And more than that….

Sedona, Snakes & Saviors

‘It’s rattlesnake season,’ the woman rescuing us said, as she and her golden retriever led the way back over the red rocks, through the juniper trees, sweetly scented sage bushes and tangled yews to the Sedona trail head where we had parked our car a couple of hours earlier. We weren’t exactly lost. We were concerned….

Celebrate

I am celebrating a pinnacle in a journey that began long before I met Laura. Eleven years ago my life was very different. I had to wash my hair almost every night to stop myself from tearing at my scalp. It would burn so badly that even when staying with family or friends, I often got…

Good News!

Good news – my sister’s breast cancer lumps are out and the surgeon says there is no lymph involvement. She is now cancer free. Hurrah! Hurrah! Hurrah! This isn’t the end of her journey to recovery. It is the beginning. But she is looking amazing and I am so proud of how quickly she has…

Journeying On

Why is travel such a comfort after loss?  Is it that being on the move gives shape and purpose to a life when there is no shape or purpose left? My first thought after Laura died was to cut free of my normal existance, which was in tatters, and take refuge in travel.  I went…

The Greatest Gift

The Greatest gift you can give to someone who is grieving is to let them talk about their departed loved on.  It is something I know from my own experience, but it was a great comfort to hear Sue Frederick, an experienced grief coach, repeat it in her Grief Coaching workshop today For me it…

Multiple Sclerosis – A Recovery Story

When I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in 2004, I felt like the sky had fallen on my head. But it solved a lifelong mystery. By my mid 40s I had spent over 5 years of my life in bed with bouts of extreme fatigue. When I was ill it felt like all the energy…

Through a Glass Darkly

‘What I’ve learned is that I’ve so much more to Learn’ -Maya Angelou. I couldn’t agree more.  These past 8 months it is as if a whole other world has opened up to me. The life I am living now suddenly seems like a tiny walk on part within an elaborate play cycle that spans centuries…

Mucosal Melanoma: Celebrating the Survivors

Today is the one year anniversary of the day that Laura was rushed to Beth Israel Hospital to see a top cancer specialist. On a routine exam in the morning her gynecologist found a golf ball size mass in her vagina.  Two days later we were told it was mucosal melanoma.  11 days later we…

Recovery as an adventure

“What sets apart people who recover from serious illness is they find the illness a challenge and an opportunity for personal growth.  They tackle the illness actively rather than being passive recipients of a doctor’s treatment.  They go to every source for information, are open-minded about unconventional therapies, try everything. They feel empowered by the…