Laura loved Cambridge (where my sister and parents live). She loved the Brideshead Revisited architecture; the glistening spires, medieval colleges, twisty cobbled streets (Waugh set his novel in Oxford but it looks pretty much the same) and the fact that almost everyone gets around on bicycles. It was our first holiday together. And now everywhere…
Arrivals & Departures
I flew into the UK yesterday into the arms of a truly British welcome; a mixture of kindness, quirkiness and comedy. I was greeted at Heathrow airport by a pair of stripy men’s underpants whizzing around on the luggage carousel closely followed by 3 pairs of socks and a bag of peanuts. After running to…
Loss
Peter Bach, a Memorial Sloan Kettering epidemiologist, lost his wife Ruth to cancer the same month that Laura died. In last week’s New York magazine he wrote eloquently about his loss. ‘Our life together was gone, and carrying on without her was exactly that, without her. I was reminded of our friend Liz’s insight after…
Into the arms of love
During her last weeks, Laura started to talk about how she knew she would soon see her father, grandmother and her beloved cat ‘Puddy’ again. She had never talked about the afterlife before and I was surprised and pleased she was so filled with excitement about what would happen. For my part, I’ve come to…
Lucie’s Recovery
Friends have joked this site should be renamed Lucie’s recovery. But I still think of this blog as being about Laura and I and our love. Of course, Laura has gone and I am now the one recovering. Most weeks for me are like quicksand. Sometimes I am fine and sometimes the pain sucks me…
What a difference a year makes
This time last year, Laura and I had no inkling she was sick. There were a few clues, but we missed them. During 2012, she had binged a lot on sugar and put on a lot of weight (some experts say that cancer tumors feed on sugar). During the summer of 2012, Laura’s blood work…
Now you see me…
I am starting to think playing with the lights is Laura’s ‘bat signal’, either that or she is taking a degree in electrical engineering. Last night the kitchen light suddenly switched itself on (something it has never done before), and lights have been mysteriously flickering on and off (both in my apartment and elsewhere when…
Dying Well
Last night I stumbled across this On Being interview with Dr Ira Byock. I’ve never heard anyone express so eloquently the great privilege of being with someone as they die, and also what it means to die well. http://www.onbeing.org/program/contemplating-mortality/11072013
Laura’s Memorial
Laura’s memorial service (on 5 February 2014) was a beautiful evening filled with love and sharing, everyone gave of their best. I only wish everyone who loved Laura could have been there, but sadly space was limited. So join us now and share in the love. Many thanks to Fatima for taking the video (apologies…
Blithe Spirit
Laura has been making her presence felt these past few weeks, sometimes when I am home alone and sometimes when I have company. Cards fly off the bookshelf in unison, objects vibrate or jump (two friends witnessed this at dinner one night) and one of the lamps in the living room flickers intensely and then…
Gerson Revisited – part three
How many enemas & juices are enough? ‘In the beginning the most important part of the therapy is an intensive detoxification of the entire body,’ wrote Dr Max Gerson in A Cancer Therapy (p193). To achieve this, Dr Gerson immediately started his cancer patients on the full protocol of 13 juices and 5 enemas each day….
Gerson Revisited – part two
Laura and I really believed in the Gerson diet and its power to cure cancer and other diseases (we have friends from the clinic currently on the diet who are doing well – bravo, bravo. bravo!!!!). But the founder of the diet Dr Max Gerson is long dead, and his wonderful daughter Charlotte (who we…
Coming Soon!
The full video of Laura’s memorial service will be posted later this week with a bonus clip of Laura jiggling about chatting and dancing. Stay tuned..
Gerson Revisited – part one
After Laura died a couple of people sniffed, ‘Well we knew the Gerson diet wouldn’t work. Carrots and enemas – how could it?’ Other people have asked what I think in hindsight about the Gerson Technique. So here goes – Pain + Stamina – The doctors at Memorial Sloan Kettering told us that doing the…
Soul Love Forever 