The Arms of Love

I often wake in the morning now to find myself all wrapped up snuggly with my feet playing what Laura called ‘feetsies’, my arms gently wrapped around me, with hands against my cheeks and suffused with a deep soul warmth and joy. When this happens, I  wonder if Laura’s spirit slipped into bed during the…

Past Lives

On Friday I did a past life regression. I was curious if I would meet Laura again in a previous life. Beforehand my mind was full of Hollywood scenarios – what if we were Navajo Indians roaming the South West (as I die from a poisoned arrow, Laura comforts me in her arms); or concubines…

Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving!  Thank you all for the little acts of kindness (and the really big ones too) that made the last 18 months bearable.  I am so blessed to have had Laura by my side for 3 years and so blessed to have such extraordinary family and friends (old and new!). Last Thanksgiving was a…

10 Years

These past 10 years have been the hardest of my life. Almost exactly a year ago, Laura’s CT scan came back with pages and pages of new cancer tumors. They poured out of the fax machine in what seemed to be a never ending stream, detailing tumors in her bones, and every organ except her…

A Love Affair

My love affair with the red rock, big sky country of the South West started in 1996 on a family vacation. We spent an exhilarating 2 weeks driving through Utah, Arizona, Nevada and California, on a trail plotted out by a geology professor friend of my dad’s.  In Jerome, a funky little mining town near…

Day 1: Christ in the Desert Monastery

Thank god for Laura’s iPhone. Not because I am itching to surf the net or make calls here at the monastery, but because it has a flashlight. The Christ in the Desert Monastery is in a very remote part of New Mexico. It sits alone in the middle of a vast mesa with 600-800 foot…

Happy Birthday Laura

Laura would have been 60 today.  She was born October 29, 1954. Anyone who knew Laura knew she was special.  But Sue Frederick, author of Bridges to Heaven, recently explained how unique she was.  According to Sue, Laura was a rare and beautiful 22.  Probably that means about as much to you as it did…

The Light Within

To steer by the light of the heart is the only choice for me now.  It is both exhilarating and terrifying.  To let go of thinking my way forward and instead find the path by what feels right, what resonates within. It is what got me here to Sedona.  It is the motor that drives…

Noticing

Is the essence of a joyful  life what you notice?  Not so long ago, I would notice what was wrong.  It came from a place of wanting to help and looking for problems to solve.  I grew up in a kindly family where love was often equated with helping and fixing things.  My parents were…

The Kindness of Strangers

The universe has put the most wonderful companions into my path this trip. Usually  I think of myself as quite a monk-ish person.  Laura was the chatty one.  She could have a group of strangers laughing in 10 minutes.  I was often happier reading a book than socializing. I don’t know what has changed, but…

Sedona

On an English hike the worst thing that can happen is you step in cow dung. In America there’s stuff that bites.  I love nature. I am just not used to big, wild, ‘tooth and claw’ American nature. So when a girlfriend and I spotted a plump snake on a hiking trail in California, we…

A Word From The Monks

I’ve applied to do a 3 day retreat at the Christ in the Desert Monastery in New Mexico.  It combines three of my favorite things – chanting Benedictine monks, beautiful architecture by George Nakashima and the ruddy landscape around Abiquiu New Mexico.  Visitors get a small room in the guest lodge and the chance to…

Good Vibrations

I used to visit a Chinese energy healer in New York who liked to say: ‘Western doctor no good. Learn body by studying corpse. Not learn nothing. All energy gone.’ I think he was right. I am pretty sure the essence of life (and healing) is energy. Laura and I’s love affair was essentially well…

Soul Journey – part two

Woo hoo, I’ve been leaping around my apartment like someone in a bouncy castle all day. I am so happy.  I am off to Sedona (Arizona) and New Mexico starting Monday. I’ve been dreaming of vortices and want to bathe in that special energy again. Four years ago, I made a quick stop at Sedona…